Teach Her Tuesday: Life Lessons

By the time you read this, I would've already been hard at work for hours. Doing what, you ask? Let's just say I'm in a magical place trying my hand at some amazing and magical things. Monday brought a swim lesson and I realized that not only am I teaching the Frog Princess about sight words, books and science but I'm also spoon feeding her life lessons.

Today, I hope our experience solidifies the understanding that dreams do come true and that what she can put her mind to can come to fruition.

But yesterday, the life lesson was simple. She told me she was scared of going go swim class and started tearing up. I soothed her as only Mamis can. Then I hugged her while we looked at each other in the mirror and I said these words:


That went along with other words to soothe her spirit. About believing in herself and the definition of courage. She went to her swim class. And her titi Q tells me she did beautifully. Yes, she shed a few tears (I suspect mostly nervous energy and a bit of anxiety). But she didn't give up. And at the end of the day, I think this is one of the most important lessons I can teach her.

Don't let fear rule your world. Acknowledge it, respect it and then forge ahead and run it over with everything you've got. Trust me, it'll be worth it.

Any lessons you've taught your little ones that you know can't come from a book?

And Then There Was Mamihood

I put my head on my pillow at around 2:30 a.m. and prayed. I turned on my side and looked at the mirrored closet doors faintly making out the shadows of words written in purple. Columns of things to do. Assignments waiting to be delivered. Ideas. Thoughts. Words of encouragement. And this thought went through my head:

What the hell am I doing?

You see, I'd just relaunched the business site. With a new name. A new look. And new ideas. I have a team of people ready to jump in and help clients with their needs. Me. All me by meself, as the frog princess used to say.

It scared me. To make the decision to continue to be solely dependent upon me for income, for paying the bills, for caring for us. Me. Not depending on someone else to hand me a check every two weeks. Still not covered by insurance. Hustling.

And then this morning, this entered my head:


And I smiled. Because I know this is right. In spite of the unspoken fears those closest to me feel about me being so"unstable". This is good. And this is right. Through the stress of balancing my checkbook (or not). I think this is what I am supposed to be doing.

I am going to share something with you. It's never been about just me. My secret dream has been to build something not so I can make millions of dollars and be rich, rich, rich. My secret dream was to be able to live comfortably and have my needs met and to own my schedule. Because success looks different for me now. More than that, I am praying God blesses me with the ability to help other Mamis own their schedule. So to that end, when you check out the new Mamihood Media, I hope you head over to take a look at the wonderful ladies that have held my hand as I jump from this diving board. Oh and my brother. He's always wanted a harem and now he can (kinda) be part of one.

To him I owe this most beautiful logo that I fall in love with every time I see:


I also want to thank him for believing this is possible. He has provided me the same support that I provide my dreamers when I coach. I will be forever grateful.

In the coming week, there will be some changes here too. I hope you stick around to see them. And I hope this reminds you to jump off the board and dive into your purpose.

Following Your Dream: Stepping Out on Faith


If you've been around since my redesign, you know that in my services page I offer something called Dream Coaching.  It's my way of helping others reach for their dreams and help provide them with tools to make them happen because I find that most times, many of us have a seed of a dream deep in our souls that would fulfill our purpose but don't water it with positivity or a fertilize it with a plan.  Those happen to be some of my strengths and I harness that in order to make sure that my clients shine through and make their dreams into reality. Some days, though, I have to dig deep down inside myself and all of the tools I recommend, talk about and use, in order to get centered. Today was one of those days. After a few recent conversations, I've started wondering if I'm doing the right thing. If, indeed, I should be trying with all my might to create a brand for myself which will allow me to: write, help others and give me the flexibility to spend more time with the frog princess.

Let's be clear. I no longer have steady income after the layoff.  I wake up to hugs and kisses and can watch Mickey Mouse Clubhouse without rushing around trying to get us ready to leave the house any longer.  I've met some awesome people and have had some great experiences during this time but, am I being responsible? Should I put my dream on hold, run back into whatever role I can find in corporate America so that I can make damn near six figures again? Is that success? Is that happiness?

I'm taking a BIG risk. I'm a single mother. I will be 37 next month (holy shit!).  What am I doing!?!

I'm stepping out on faith.  And I'm not looking back. I have felt calm all this time in my decision.  I can't help others achieve their dreams if I do not achieve mine, right? So, as is my usual routine, I had a few conversations with people in my life who are not afraid to tell me the truth (you need at least one of those. I guess I got extra lucky that I have about 6! ;-) ).  I read a book by one of my favorite authors, Paulo Coelho and then I turned to my Stepping Stones.  These are quotes and excerpts from Lisa Hammond's book Dream Big! which I highly recommend to my clients and which has personally given me profound inspiration to continue on dreaming.

Here are some of my favorite which are marked for easy access during days like this:

"How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our live." - Annie Dillard (doesn't that just scare you half to death?)

"The most important thing you will ever do is become who you were meant to be.  Blossom into yourself." - Lisa Hammond

"Only she who attempts the absurd can achieve the impossible." - Robin Morgan (and ain't I just the absurdest at the moment?)

"Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage." - Anais Nin

"We always attract into our lives whatever we think about most, believe most strongly, expect on the deepest level, and imagine most vividly." - Shakti Gawain (I've tried this with brownies to see if they will magically appear on my kitchen counter but I don't think it's meant to work for desserts.)

"We can never see the path of our life if we are too busy focusing on the pebbles under our feet." - Anonymous (I think of this one often when I look at what I brought in with unemployment in the last 3 months of the year and how all of that was less than what I'd net out of one pay period before. But you know what? I have wanted for nothing during this time and for that I feel blessed and grateful!)

I guess I write this tonight because I wouldn't be a good coach if I didn't understand the fears, the hesitation and the pressure that we sometimes feel as we move forward and try to achieve a dream that perhaps can only be seen fully and clearly through our eyes.

What dreams do you have for yourself and how long will it be until you attempt what might seem absurd to someone else?

*Stay tuned! I will be expanding my services in the coming weeks.  Social media management anyone?